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CONQUERING
CANCER: MY WIFE, OUR LOVE
(2004)
BY TERRY BANKER
In
April 1998, while out of the country on business, I received a
phone call from my wife telling me she found a lump in her breast
and they were going to operate. Within 24 hours, we were to learn
she had breast cancer. Not only would her life change, so would
mine as her husband. Everyone has a dark secret, and CONQUERING
CANCER is my story.
My
wife was slowly dying and I was forced to watch. In CONQUERING
CANCER , I tell of my wife’s near-death experience with breast
cancer and examine its assault on love and effect on me. “The
secret of life is honesty and fair dealing,” Groucho Marx begins.
“If you can fake that, you’ve got it made.” When we can’t laugh,
we cry, and we when we love, we do both. In life, everyone faces
difficult challenges. No matter how long and hard the journey,
Love is worth whatever it takes.
CONQUERING
CANCER is the only book:
1.) Written by and for a spouse
2.) Shows how breast cancer can affect the relationship,
3.) Reveals the emotional and often illogical roller coaster a
husband may experience, and
4.) Illustrates how Love and Hope are essential to survival.
Elise
NeeDell Babcock, founder of Cancer Counseling, Inc. and author
of the best selling WHEN LIFE BECOMES PRECIOUS (Bantam),
says, “There were only two books I’d recommend and now I’ll recommend
CONQUERING CANCER.” Ms. Babcock has agreed to write the
Foreword.
Dr.
Marcia M. Middel, Ph.D. a leading Denver psychologist and specialist
in the field of Primary Care Provider Consultation says, "CONQUERING
CANCER is a warm and loving journey, which will help the
spouse and patient." She has agreed to write the introduction.
Many
people feel helpless, alone, and don't know where to turn for
help when cancer or any significant illness strikes. A partial
list of these warning signs include:
1.
Feeling overwhelmed
2. Drug and alcohol abuse
3. Inability to sleep
4. Radical change in eating habits
5. Waning concentration
6. Suicidal tendencies
7. Anxiety
8. Resistance in seeking treatment or seeing a doctor
9. Withdrawal from family and friends
10. Carelessness
11. Continually tired
12. Failure to take care of self
13. Feeling alone and abandoned
If
any of these are present, please seek professional help.
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